Dear G&B: Let us tackle your love woes

by megan sinclair

Dear g&b,
I met this girl about a month ago, and we knew instantly that we were going to like each other a lot. But, in order not to get sick of each other too fast, we decided to take things slow. I really liked getting to know her for the past few weeks but then, a few days ago, I kinda found out that she’s not that great in the . . . bedroom area. I’m really into her, but I don’t know why we click so well when we’re just talking and then there’s no fire in bed. I don’t want to not have sex with her, but it’s really not appealing at all. Should I say something or just learn to live with it?
— Lackluster Lover 

Dear Lackluster Lover,
First of all, you need to remember that people are often trainable, or they at least sometime adjust to your style.
Before you decide how to tell her the problem, you need to decide one thing. What’s more important to you, The Big O or the Big R? If it’s the first, then just try telling her that it’s not working and see if she’s interested in trying things your way. You guys may find a good stylistic middle ground...or at least you could have some fun trying.
On the other hand, if it’s the relationship you are looking for, this situation may take a little more time and care in how you approach it. You don’t want to come right out and tell her she’s not up to your standards in the bedroom. That could be one of the fastest ways to ruin a potential relationship.
Try using a give and take situation. Tell her a few of the things you really like and ask her what she likes or what you could do different. Taking the time to understand each other’s preferences will help you get more comfortable with each other and maybe even learn a few new tricks.
And hey just remember the words of a few very wise men and women:
“Sex is like pizza...even when it’s bad, it’s not that bad.”